Nowadays, older women love to date younger men and this has become the mainstream. Older men have had more wives, girlfriends or lovers than younger guys. This can make them quite wise when it comes to relationships. It can also leave them with a lot more emotional baggage than younger men. Hence an older man may have a bitter and biased point of view when it comes to women. For instance, he might think that all women are nagging shrews because his ex-wife never gave him a moment’s peace. The gap in years is relative to the gap in life experience. However, sometimes this leads to couples with a very large gap having problems such as an older man treating his younger woman like a child. This will kill the romance of the relationship, so it is definitely a good idea to avoid it.
Get in the best shape physically that you can. They are attracted to an older guy that stays in shape. It’s extraordinarily sexy to them. You have the advantage that you do not have to be in super great shape like the young guys. Older men can get away with just being in OK shape and be very sexy still. The key is it has to be your great shape, do not compare it to younger guys. Many younger men like older woman because they feel they are less inhibited in the bedroom. Yes, I am saying younger men want an older woman to have mind-blowing sex with. They know an older woman has experience between the sheets and that she is not shy to tell him what she likes and teach him a new trick or two. An older woman is as equally attracted to a younger man for sexual reasons because we tend to factor in stamina and athleticism with younger men.
So why are young men drawn to older women? For one thing, we all had a crush at a teacher at some time. Another reason is that older women know much more about how to treat a man right and are much less prone to whining or senseless arguments. Added bonus is that they will not expect their young lover to be perfect in every way – they will see you as a boy who is still learning, and will be happy to provide guidance and patiently teach you lessons about women that you will never forget. The younger men tell me that women their age are boring, manipulative, game playing, self centered, and shallow. They are attracted to the depth, maturity and spirit of the older woman.
A young man falls for an older woman because he feels confidence with her. Older women are direct and honest and also they are in more control of their emotions and that is why they are considered to be a better lover. They even have more touch of sensuality thereby, making them more preferable. Many older woman also enjoy mentoring their partner. Cougars have life experience that younger women simply don’t. While we consider ourselves as sharp young men who know stuff that older people can’t know because they are too old-fashioned, the truth is that we do need advice often. Just being able to see the situation through the eyes of a more experienced person is a big plus. To be told a few life lessons by a gorgeous older woman in bed with you, that is priceless.
Maturity is not always dependent on age. Based on their experiences of life, some younger men grow up faster and become wiser. In order to get a better idea of how mature he is, you may want to spend some time with him. However, you don’t need to take this hassle if you just want a casual relationship. What you need to do is avoid online classifieds and entirely free dating sites. These sites are replete with con artists posing as younger ladies. These people try to convince you to join expensive dating sites in order to get paid commission by these same dating services. Certainly, there are also a great many real women using these classified sites and dating sites, but how can you tell which ladies are real and which are fake? There is no way.
The word ‘cougar’ has come to symbolise an older woman who preys upon younger men and entices them into her bed. The young man becomes her ‘cub’ and his sole responsibility and obligation is to sexually ‘service’ the cougar and ensure her satisfaction. In my experience, this is a true and accurate representation of a cougar and cub relationship. While some might think that dating older women is like dating your own mum, it is not necessarily true! Believe it or not, many older women enjoy mentoring their partner. Partly because she feels that she is more experienced as compared to the younger ladies.
I have worked in the dating industry for over a decade. One thing I learned a long time ago is thousands of young women go looking for older men online every day of the week. Thousands. A certain type of young lady prefers mature men to their younger counterparts. To find these women, you just need to know where to look, and which sites to avoid. It is highly possible, believe me, to find hundreds of these women who would be interested in meeting yourself. Cougars, or mature ladies who seek to seduce young guys, are very desirable to these men. A cougar is mostly aroused by age. The man does not have to be handsome, wealthy, or a generally great “catch”. The mere fact that he is younger than the women is all that is required in most cases. This is why, in recent times, clever young men are hunting older women in the dating market. It is easy for young men to arrange dates or one night stands with these women.
Always keeping things in perspective, I am not suggesting moving in or getting into a serious relationship, but simply begin being open to encountering younger men and to relish in a truly indulgent experience. You can have a date or two, see if you have things in common, see his qualities, his maturity (remember, age does not bring maturity) and see if he fits into what you’re looking for right now. Aside from the age factor, older woman look for men who are confident, have a sense of humor and won’t have a problem accepting you for what you have. But before you go on a date with him, make sure you know what will work the best. You need to have a better idea of your circumstances before you go for the relationship with a younger man.
I want to tell something about some disadvantages of dating a younger woman, disadvantages that you would probably not have thought of yourself from your perspective. But, as you get older, life experience and emotional growth help to equalize your relationship skills and resources. A ten-year or more difference in your ages makes little difference in how well you can conduct your relationship. Don’t let anyone make you feel uncomfortable if you are an older woman dating younger men. If you have married female friends who are your age you may run into some skepticism from them. There’s also a chance that men your own age will do their best to point out everything that is negative about younger fellows. Never be dissuaded from your interest in younger men. If you feel comfortable dating someone, regardless of their age, it’s no one else’s business.
Now you may ask why older women want younger males. Answer is simple. A muscular, toned body along with energy, enthusiasm and willingness to do the work is some of the characteristics of young males. Young males encourages accomplishments and do not feel threatened by them. I don’t know about you, but I’m not ready for retirement. For women over 40, we have a great deal of options open to us. Depending on your personality and lifestyle you can find someone who is interested in the same things you are. I used to be worried about the age thing when it came to dating, but not anymore.I have found out that men really don’t care about our age as much as we do. Look around, you’ll see older women with younger men.
Older women do not imply that they are dull or boring. In fact, they are sometimes more attractive, vibrant and young at heart than the younger ones. They have seen life and thus, have very good decision making and problem solving skills. She is already aware of the age difference and if she has any brains in that smoking bod, then she knows that you have experienced more in life than she has. You have something to offer her. Showcase your wisdom; be practical, and be grounded. Avoid making the rash mistakes that younger men do. You are calm, reserved and receptive. You have nothing to prove.
Now a lot of men in search of dates with younger women will join social networks like “Facebook” or “MySpace.” This is the wrong approach if you are specifically looking for young females who want to date men older than themselves. You see, while sites like “Facebook” allow members to state that, yes, they are looking for men, and looking for a relationship, they do not allow women to state “what kind” of men they seek. Use your advantages: be the cool, calm, collected, wiser alpha male with life experiences that she is expecting you to have.
Younger women in their 30’s are often worried about their biological clocks ticking away and with good reason. If you want to have children, time does run out at some point. But with an older woman, she is past thinking “family” or already has her family and so the pressure on that young man is off. With an older woman, he can actually skirt the whole family thing and just enjoy. And so can you. Oh, and I’m also physically attracted to mature women. All of the things that are supposed to be detriments – winkles, gray hair, loss of firm skin – I find beautiful.
While cougar dating is now quite common and there are a lot of cougar singles looking for younger guys, it’s still just a bit of fun for both the older woman and for the young guy! The benefits of dating a cougar are generally confined to having fun in and out of the bedroom. Older women are more accomplished. Today many women have power jobs and make a boatload of ka-ching. And so, just like younger women who date older men, younger men are looking for the flip side of the traditional equation. And let’s face it, many of these “cougar-types” are looking for what older men have known for years. Dating younger will help keep you young and brings back the excitement.}